The Trauma Informed Parent. Suzy DeYoung
Originally from New York City, Suzy began her career in television working as a production assistant and segment producer for a variety of programs including, Ryan’s Hope, Good Morning America, The CBS Morning Program and Live! Regis & Kathie Lee.
After the birth of her daughter, Suzy earned a Master’s of Education in Parent and Child Development from Bank Street College of Education in New York City.
Shortly after moving to Newtown, CT. in 2003, her middle child, seven at the time, suffered a severe and life threatening accident–a trauma that put everything else in their lives on hold for months.
Suzy says that While the treatment received for the physical injury was excellent, we were largely unprepared for the residual effects of the stored trauma which we would come to learn, endure on and off indefinitely; yet with the proper help can be substantially mitigated.
In 2007, Suzy launched Parenting With New Perspectives, a resource of guidance, support, and coaching for parents.
Suzy is a mother to three children: Quincy, 23; Cary, 19 and Barrett, 17.
Do what you feel in your heart is right, for you will be criticised anyway.
A Crucial Early Mistake
I think I would have vetted people, specialists, better.
I’m Going to fix this and get the best.
Why do I do this? Because I think it, trauma is the root of much of what’s wrong with society.
- The relationship matters. It doesn’t matter how many degrees you have on the wall. You’ve got to really connect with the person and who they are.
- Be willing to learn from your client.
- Be open to alternative therapies, even if they’re not completely evidence-based yet.
- Advice for parents of kids who’ve had stressful experiences: learn how to listen nonjudgmentally.
- Hear what your kids are saying and don’t be so quick to jump in with the answers.
Suzy’s Go-To Books
- The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma Paperback, by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
- The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist’s Notebook–What Traumatized Children Can Teach Us About Loss, Love, and Healing Paperback, by Bruce D. Perry and Maia Szalavitz
- Far From the Tree: Parents, Children and the Search for Identity, by Andrew Solomon
- Man’s Search For Meaning, by Viktor E. Frankl