How To Stay Grounded & Present. Lisa Ferentz
We continue this month revisiting some of my favorite interviews. Today we listen to the incredible Lisa Ferentz, LCSW.
Lisa is one of those individuals who has the admirable combination of empathy, humor, and compassion together with the skill of a master therapist. (I loved talking with Lisa so much, and respect so much the way she works that I invited her to share her passion on Trauma Therapist | 2.0. You can check out Lisa’s video here.)
Lisa has been in private practice for over 30 years and is a nationally recognized expert in the treatment of trauma.
She is an adjunct Faculty member at several Universities and is the Founder of The Institute for Advanced Psychotherapy Training and Education, now in its eighth year of providing continuing education to mental health professionals.
Lisa is the author of Treating Self-Destructive Behaviors in Trauma Survivors: A Clinician’s Guide, now in its second edition, and Letting Go of Self-Destructive Behaviors: A Workbook of Hope and Healing.
In 2009 she was voted the “Social Worker of Year” by the Maryland Society for Clinical Social Work.
Experience is not what happens to you; it’s what you do with what happens to you.
What Led to the Specialization of Trauma?
Lisa shares her experiences of when she was a five-year old girl sitting on the steps of her home, listening to the problems of the kids in her neighborhood and how that set the stage for her interest and specialization in trauma.
A Crucial Early Mistake
Lisa talks about how when she was a young clinician and having the desire to want to be the parent my clients never had and how that set the stage for their then becoming co-dependent on me.
Because this work is so damn inspiring!
- Set boundaries and limits and make it clear to your clients that it’s to help them gain mastery of their own internal resources.
- Make sure your clients are connected to other modes of support.
- Explore spirituality.
- Don’t work harder than your client does.
- You’re only as effective professionally to the extent that you take care of yourself personally.
- Someone has to stay grounded and present at all times and it better be you.
- With regards to self-disclosure: make sure the spotlight isn’t on you for more than 5 minutes.
Lisa’s Go-To Books
- The Brain That Changes Itself: Stories of Personal Triumph from the Frontiers of Brain Science, Norman Doidge M.D.
- The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment and the Developing Social Brain (Second Edition) (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology), Louis Cozolino
- Treating Self-Destructive Behaviors in Trauma Survivors: A Clinician’s Guide
- Letting Go of Self-Destructive Behaviors: A Workbook of Hope and Healing