Hilary Jacobs Hendel is a trauma psychotherapist with a focus on emotions and the body. She has an extensive background in science and psychotherapy including a BA in Biochemistry from Wesleyan University, a doctoral degree from Columbia University and an MSW from Fordham University. She is a certified psychoanalyst and a certified AEDP psychotherapist and supervisor. Hilary has published articles in The New York Times and professional journals and writes a blog called The Change Triangle. Hilary was also the Mental Health Consultant for the Emmy Award-winning television show Mad Men on AMC. She lives and practices in New York City.
The Quote
In the depths of winter I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer.
Albert Camus
A Crucial Early Mistake
Hilary shares the story of how when she was a young student studying analysis, she was taught to be silent, yet this idea and the act of being a neutral observer had many shortcomings.
Hilary’s Why
I’ve always loved helping people, and now my passion is bringing this knowledge of emotions to the general public.
Hilary’s Advice
- Learn about emotions. Read about trauma and how to work with the body.
- It’s very important to have good boundaries.
- Understand the neuroscience about trauma.
Hilary’s Go-To Books
- It’s Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to Your Authentic Self, Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- The Transforming Power Of Affect: A Model For Accelerated Change, Diana Fosha
Episode Links
The Trauma Therapist Project Resources
I am so happy that I ran across this site and this particular podcast. As a new therapist and working with women and men of color particularly, being able to help people to literally get in touch with their emotions. And I just didn’t know what and how to articulate this and it’s importance in this analytical field of therapy. There is a need for emotion education and being able to be confident and not afraid of those emotions and feelings.
I would love to connect with you to identify how I can get training and supervision in this approach.
Hey Andreiah! Thanks so much for reaching out and for sharing your thoughts. I truly appreciate your kind words about the site and the support. Guy
Hi Andrieah. Thanks for connecting and for sharing your thoughts. You can feel free to email me at [email protected] or there is information on the AEDP Institute website about training in AEDP.
Warmly, Hilary